When Is Your Soulmate Going To Call?

 
 

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Many psychic readings involve long-term, on-again, off-again relationships. There is usually a very strong emotional and spiritual bond between the client and another person, along with very limited, uncertain and even frustrating progress in real terms.

Being caught up in this kind of inconsistent “situationship” can be very taxing on the mind, body and soul. As the toxic energies of doubt and mistrust increasingly seep in, one’s well-being and functioning are negatively affected. It is especially damaging to self-esteem, confidence and trust, and can eventually affect other areas of your life such as health, career and finances.

I often hear clients in these situations say, “If only he would call!” While it may feel like the other person has all the power in the relationship, the truth is that you always have the power to shift your own vibration and change your reality. You always have the option to take back your power!

In my experience there are certain key elements to shifting, conquering or resolving this kind of “it’s complicated” relationship scenario:

Communicating Boundaries

The first step and best practical approach, but one that is unfortunately too often used as a last resort, is to communicate firm and clear boundaries. It is necessary in this type of situation to have a conversation with the other person about what you need and expect in a relationship. You deserve open, frequent, and honest communication in all of your relationships.

Although this can be a highly charged topic with potentially many emotional triggers, it is important to remain as neutral as possible when having this conversation. Avoid blaming the other person. If the person is unresponsive, or moves into blame or accusation, then these are important red flags to note!

Seeking Self-Awareness

The next important step is to bring your focus back to yourself. Begin to examine where limiting beliefs or self-doubt may have “gummed up the works.” Where did this cascade of unworthiness and insecurity begin that is now being reflected back to you through this person’s neglectful behavior? Asking your guides or angels for clarity, guidance and insight will provide a wonderful boost and some ‘aha’ moments that will help you turn this pattern around.

Is there hope for this relationship? In many cases I’ve worked with, yes. By shifting their own vibration to a more empowered and deserving stance, many of my clients have been able to transform their “difficult” relationships, while others have been able to move on to more fulfilling and healthier relationships with partners who are more open and available emotionally, energetically, physically and spiritually. Either way, you win!

And that is the most important point that Spirit wishes to make. Whether with this person or another, your dream of ‘big love’ is very real and can be fulfilled. Often it only takes a few adjustments, such as those mentioned above, to release the energetic blockages that have been holding you back from finding the true love you deserve once and for all.

Identifying Soul Contracts

Many of my clients also want to know if a person they are interested in or currently in a relationship with is their soulmate. While on the surface this seems like a simple, straightforward question, I find the typical answer in these readings to be more complex and nuanced.

Many people believe that they have just one life-long soulmate that they are meant to be with – the one, true, perfect love that will last a lifetime. In readings, however, I find instead that in many cases this notion is not exactly karmically viable.

Accelerated Soul Plans

Spirit has shown me that at this time in human history, more and more souls are incarnating to live “multiple lives” within one physical lifetime. These accelerated soul plans are an ingenious way to accelerate one’s soul growth and spiritual evolution, but they can also cause major confusion when it comes to living in 3D reality.

How do you know if you’re one of these souls? A good place to start is to look back on your life. Have you had any experiences in this current life that seem to have happened “a lifetime ago”? When you recall significant events or times in your past, do they feel like memories from an entirely different life, or even a past life? Well, this is probably because, energetically speaking, it was literally ‘another life’.

So, what does that mean for our romantic lives and relationships? Because we have come here for a crash course in soul expansion and spiritual growth, we have made several soul contracts with other incarnated souls before we were born. The purpose of these soul contracts is to experience many different karmic life lessons and spiritual growth opportunities, and all the souls with whom you have formed these strategic alliances are therefore all your “soulmates.” This is where the confusion often lies.

Soul Contract Revival

If you are here on a “fast-tracked” soul plan, the soulmate connections and relationships you will experience in this lifetime are essentially a “greatest hits revival.” All of the souls with whom you have had amazing connections and relationships over the many lifetimes you have lived are coming back into your life this time. Some will just stop by for a quick ‘reappraisal’ before you move on with your accelerated growth path, while others may stay for a mid-term ‘reckoning’ or even a longer-term final ‘integration’.

Soul contracts are agreements made at the soul level before we incarnate into a physical body. These contracts outline the lessons, challenges, and experiences we will go through in our earthly lives. The purpose is to provide opportunities for spiritual evolution and personal development. The terms and specifics of these contracts vary widely, and soulmates can appear in our lives in many forms. Many of these connections are also carried over from previous lives.

Types Of Soulmates

Each type of soulmate serves a unique purpose in our life journey and soul evolution. When we meet them in life, we tend to have a sense of déjà vu or deep recognition, indicating a connection that transcends the current lifetime. The list of potential soulmates you may meet in your current lifetime includes:

ROMANTIC SOULMATES

These are the soulmates we often think of first when we talk about soulmates. As a lover, this soulmate brings one of the most passionate experiences of your life. These are the soulmates with whom we feel an instant connection. The chemistry is usually off the charts! As romantic partners, you meet on intellectual, emotional and spiritual levels like never before. Some of these soulmate relationships can be very challenging, but they offer tremendous opportunities for personal and spiritual growth.

COMPANION SOULMATES

These are typically the strong friendships and partnerships that stay with us throughout our lives. They are people we feel we have known forever, even though we have just met them. They are usually members of our soul family or soul circle and can show up in many different forms – as childhood friends, best friends, business partners, co-creators, family members, or even pets. They are the people you have known all your life who love and support you like no other and are part of your support system on Earth.

Some companion soulmates come together in this lifetime because of a service soul contract, which involves dedicating your lives to serving and helping others. People with this type of soul contract tend to work together for the greater good, making a positive contribution to their communities or the world at large.

TEACHER SOULMATES

These are the soulmates who teach us important lessons in life. They may be a treasured mentor or healer in your life that you meet with divine timing. They could be your kind first grade teacher who changed your outlook on life, or an inspiring college professor who encouraged you to achieve greatness.

KARMIC SOULMATES

These are the soulmates we have known in previous lives. These are the soulmates with whom we have a karmic debt. They come into our lives to help us heal past traumas, complete unfinished business, learn important karmic lessons, and help us evolve our souls. They help us heal from past traumas or emotional wounds. These relationships can also be intense, but are ultimately meant to facilitate personal healing and growth.

Those of us who are here on a fast-tracked soul plan, have chosen to carry a strong memory of our true soul identity and our path in this lifetime, which manifests as a strong sense of self, strong intuition, and the ability to recognize the soul identities of those with whom you have ‘contractual obligations’. So, when you meet one of your ‘soulmates’, you will often recognize them instantly, and you may feel an intense connection or have a profound emotional response to them. They are significant markers for you in this lifetime.

Soulmate Psychic Readings

If you find it difficult to identify or fully understand a soul contract or a soulmate connection in your life, a good way to gain insight is to get a psychic reading with a reputable reader who specializes in soulmates, love and relationship readings.

There are several types of psychic readings that can help you better understand a soulmate connection or soul contract you may have with someone:

AKASHIC RECORDS READINGS

Some psychics can read the Akashic Records, which is basically the ‘cosmic library’ that all the contains information about each of our soul journeys. Readings from the Akashic Records can provide insight into your soul contracts and connections in this lifetime.

CHANNELED OR MEDIUMSHIP READINGS

Mental mediums and trance mediums can communicate with your spirit guides, angels, ancestors, and deceased loved ones, or higher spirit entities to provide you with information and guidance about your soulmates and soul contracts. The information is channeled from a higher source beyond the physical realm.

PAST LIFE READINGS

Psychics who conduct past life regression sessions help individuals explore their past lives. Our past life experiences affect our current relationships, and information about soulmates and your soul contracts can surface during these sessions.

ASTROLOGY READINGS

Astrologers analyze the positions of celestial bodies at the time of your birth to provide insight into your personality, life path, and relationships. Certain placements can indicate connections with soulmates or karmic ties.

TAROT CARD READINGS

Tarot cards and other forms of divination are used to gain insight into various aspects of life, including relationships. Certain card combinations or spreads indicate soulmate connections or the presence of soul contracts.

NUMEROLOGY READINGS

Numerologists examine the meaning of numbers, such as birth dates and names, to gain insight into an individual’s life path and relationships. Certain numbers may be associated with soulmates or karmic relationships.

Dealing With A Difficult Soulmate

If you’re feeling frustrated that your soulmate relationship isn’t working out the way you expected, I suggest you start with the setting of boundaries and self-reflective questions as I suggest above. Next, explore the true nature and purpose of your soul contract with this person, either through your own spiritual practice and contemplation, or with the help of a skilled and experienced psychic advisor, or both.

Adopting a new perspective on your soulmate connection can create a significant shift in the dynamics of your current relationship. It can help both of you arrive at the true love you desire and deserve much more quickly and with less struggle.

However, you also find that in many cases these relationships are not meant for longevity. This is perfectly okay too. It doesn’t mean you did anything wrong or that the relationship was never meant to be. It just means that you have fulfilled another soul contract and completed another growth assignment. Now it’s time to move on to the next lesson!

If you are struggling to move on, ask yourself what they came to teach you this time. Is it to open more deeply to love? Is it to trust your intuition more? Is it to learn about your worth and value, or how to set healthy boundaries? Is it to find healing and become more empowered? Is it to motivate you to fulfill your purpose?

There are many ways for us to learn and grow from these relationships. Understanding the purpose of a failed or terminated soulmate relationship helps us find the necessary closure, learn the lesson, and move on.

Remember, however, that if at any time you feel the need to slow down, you can ask God, Source, Spirit, the Divine and you guides and angels to help you update your soul contracts and redefine them to include a permanent, healthy, committed soulmate relationship in this lifetime. Make it a daily prayer request or meditation focus, and you may be surprised at how quickly the cycle of short-lived soulmate connections can shift for “the one” to come into your life.

Soulmate Relationships vs. Abusive Relationships

It is important to note in conclusion that a soulmate relationship is never an abusive relationship. There is too often confusion about this, which can ultimately be very destructive and even extremely dangerous for victims in abusive relationships who mistakenly believe they are engaged in a “soul project” with their toxic partner.

While some soul contract relationships can indeed be frustrating, confusing, or challenging, they are never meant to be destructive and toxic. There is nothing spiritual about a relationship that will eventually “break your spirit” or “destroy your soul.” Quite the opposite is true!

Soulmate relationships and abusive relationships are fundamentally very different in nature, and they involve very contrasting dynamics. Here are the key differences between the two:

SAFETY

The first difference is that soulmate relationships, no matter how complicated or challenging, always provide a safe space for both partners to learn, grow and evolve. You may feel misunderstood or uncertain in some soulmate realtionships, or there may some communivation or trust issues, but you will never feel unsafe!

Both partners feel physically and emotionally safe in a soulmate relationship. There is no fear of harm, and each person’s well-being is a priority. In an abusive relationship, safety is compromised. Physical violence, emotional abuse and controlling behaviors create an environment of fear and danger.

LOVE AND RESPECT

A soulmate relationship is built on a foundation of love, mutual understanding, caring and respect. Both partners support and uplift each other, and there is a sense of companionship and shared values. An abusive relationship, on the other hand, is characterized by control, manipulation, and a lack of respect. One partner seeks power and control over the other, often through intimidation, isolation, and violence.

EMOTIONAL CONNECTION

Soulmates have a deep emotional and spiritual connection. They are attuned to each other’s feelings, offer emotional support, and communicate openly. There is a sense of emotional security and vulnerability. In an abusive relationship, there may be moments of intense emotion, but these are often negative and destructive, especially as the relationship progresses. Fear, anxiety, and a lack of emotional safety are common in abusive dynamics.

COMMUNICATION

Healthy communication is a hallmark of a soulmate relationship. Partners are open, honest, and willing to listen to each other’s perspectives. Conflict is handled constructively and solutions are sought together. Communication in an abusive relationship is often characterized by manipulation, blame shifting, and verbal or physical aggression. The abuser may use communication as a means of control rather than genuine connection.

MUTUAL GROWTH

Soulmates encourage each other’s personal growth and development. They support each other’s goals and aspirations, recognizing that individual fulfillment contributes to the overall health of the relationship. An abusive partner may try to undermine the other’s confidence and independence. Control is used to keep the victim dependent and to prevent personal growth.

Dealing With An Abusive Relationship

If you feel abused or unsafe in a relationship, it’s essential to prioritize your well-being and take steps to protect yourself. It’s important to note that no amount of love or connection justifies abusive behavior. If you suspect you are in an abusive relationship or know someone who is, it is important to seek support from friends, family, mental health professionals, your community, and law enforcement.

Here are some important actions to consider:

Trust Your Instincts: If you feel unsafe, trust your instincts. Your feelings are valid, and prioritizing your safety is crucial.

Reach Out for Support: Talk to someone you trust about your concerns, such as friends, family, or a counselor. Sharing your feelings with others can provide emotional support and different perspectives. Maintain connections with friends and family. Having a support system can be crucial during difficult times.

Create a Safety Plan: Develop a safety plan outlining steps to take in case of an emergency or escalating situation. This might include identifying safe places, people to contact, and a plan for leaving if necessary.

Contact a Domestic Violence Hotline: If you are in immediate danger or need guidance, contact a domestic violence hotline or a local organization that specializes in assisting individuals in abusive relationships. They can provide resources, support, and guidance on how to proceed.

Seek Professional Help: Consider seeking the help of a therapist or counselor, either individually or as a couple, to address the underlying issues in the relationship and work towards a healthier dynamic.

Document Incidents: Keep a record of any incidents that make you feel unsafe. Note dates, times, and descriptions of the events. This documentation can be useful if legal action becomes necessary.

Develop an Exit Plan: If the situation doesn’t improve or escalates, have a plan for leaving the relationship safely. This may involve staying with friends or family, accessing a shelter, or contacting local authorities.

Involve Law Enforcement: If you are in immediate danger, don’t hesitate to call emergency services. Law enforcement can provide assistance and protection.

 

About The Author: Megan Megan was born with wide open gifts, experiencing dreams and premonitions at a very early age. She has had 30 years of daily tutelage from Guides, Archangels, Ascended Masters, and the Ashtar Command. Since 1993, Megan has been providing honest and compassionate readings and healings, starting with friends and family, then transitioning to a professional practice, in 2006. She's certified in various psychic and healing methods, including Reiki, Angel Work, and specializing in relationship readings, giving detailed info on how long a relationship will last, whether the partner is honest, and what their intentions are going forward. Megan has accurately read for clients around the world. She is very proud and grateful for her client loyalty and has a long list of devoted clients who have worked with her for years, many since the inception of her practice.